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They are trying to stay together but my mom wants to sell her house it is to big for her and her brother. Can my brother bully my mom to let him buy the house so he can separate her and her brother? She has a start of dementia and I am worried.

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"Can my brother bully my mom...?"

If she assigns someone as her DPoA then no, your brother would have to contend with the PoA. Bullying only happens if the victim allows it.

The house needs to be sold a FMV or else it could delay or disqualify your Mom for Medicaid in the future. Your brother probably thinks he can buy if from her for a song. Nope. Please consult with an elder law attorney. Even if your Mom doesn't yet have a PoA if she is only in the early stages the attorney can assess her for legal capacity. The bar is low so don't delay. Once she has those legal ducks in a row please make sure to take her to her doctor to get a comprehensive cognitive exam so that no one can coerce her into changing her PoA (aka your brother).
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If your mom wants to sell the house, and your brother wants to buy it, make sure he buys it at full market value, and that the money goes into an account to be used just for her needs. Then you can help her and her brother find a suitable place together, if that will meet their needs. If your mother needs to go to memory care, find a community where your uncle can go to assisted living, if that's a good match for him, so they can still spend time together.

Who has your mother's POA? Has it been activated? Who handles her money? As Fawnby said, you can make an appointment for her with an attorney to plan properly and avoid mistakes.
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You should see an eldercare lawyer right away. The first session is often free. The lawyer can advise what documents you need from mom so that you can be in charge of her legal affairs, which would include selling her house and using the proceeds for her benefit. This would ensure that mom would have enough money to pay for her care as her health continues to decline.

As far as getting a caregiver for mom and uncle, that's a whole different issue. I wish you luck in sorting it out.
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