I love my grandmother, and I wanted to step up and help as much as possible, but it quickly turned into myself being primary caregiver. She’s a difficult Alzheimer’s case with behaviors, and as much as she wants to go back to her own house, I still can’t figure out how to make that happen safely. I’m only 29, I planned to get married this year, finish my masters next year, and start my own family after that. Now I can’t have any of that. My grandma has yet to accept any outside help, not have we really found a person that can handle her. My mom and aunt that would be willing to help have both gotten chronically sick and can’t help as much anymore, and my own sisters and cousins have no interest in helping. My mom and aunt that are sick desperately do not want my grandma placed in a home because it’s highly likely she would go downhill fast, it costs too much, and I don’t really have a say in the matter anyway. If I don’t keep helping, my mom will try to do it all on her own without taking care of herself and it will likely kill her. She will go to adult day care but so far staying any longer than 4 hours hasn’t worked, as I get calls to come pick her up because she’s agitated and trying to leave. I need help with ideas on how I can have my life without sacrificing hers or my mom and aunts lives.