I am the sole caregiver for my partner of 45 years and I am slowly going mad. She frequently does not remember who I am...

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I am pretty much in the same boat with you and so many others here. Our 51st anniversary is this month. DW still knows who I am but so many other things are foreign to her now. Things she never would have done two years ago,most of it involves liquids,are common now. She pours diet soda into my coffee. She puts the last bit of her sandwich into my coffee. She spits onto the floor in public places. She will urinate on the floor in the bath room instead of sitting on the toilet. She puts her underwear on over her slacks. And it goes on from there.
If I had hair I would be pulling it out. She very seldom makes any sense when speaking English and speaks her native language more, which I don't understand.She will only go to one or two places in public. Will shout at me no matter where we are. She loves being around and greeting people but can't carry a conversation.
It hurts so much to see this body that used to contain my wife being invaded by this new creature.
This site is my sole source of support. There are support groups in my area but I would have to hire a companion to sit with her if I go. That ain't cheap either.
I would google for support groups in your area. Too bad a person cannot do a conference call or live stream on line for the group get together. Until then visit here often.
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Reply to OldSailor

Sallysy: just some additional info please - I assume your partner been diagnosed with Alz/Dementia?  UPDATE:  I'll assume it's AD.  Do research this disease asFreqflyer said,  plus see if there are caregiver support groups in your area or see a counselor privately to help you through this.
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Reply to peace416

Sally, imagine how your partner feels not recognizing you but thinking you are a stranger. Sadly this is what happens when one has Alzheimer's/Dementia, her brain is broken. You need to go with a flow, and don't try to correct her.... it would only frustrate you and her. Usually one has to agree with whatever a person with memory issues has to say, it is just easier.

Learn all you can about this disease, it won't make it easier but it will give you a better understanding. https://www.agingcare.com/alzheimers-dementia
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