My 86 year old Mom has a host of medical issues as well as mid stage dementia. The main one right now being Chronic Kidney disease. She has the urge to go pee several times during the night and struggles with constipation as well. I'm deathly afraid that she will fall trying to get to the bathroom at night by herself so I'm sleeping with her to help. However, I cannot stay up all night with her and function during the day too. I'm at the point that I'm exhausted and need an overnight caregiver. Where do I start? What is the average pay? I'm apprehensive to let someone stay in our home overnight that we do not know. She is the spouse of a deceased Military Airman. Will the VA Help at all?