I am 1 of 4 children in my family. One of my siblings committed suicide 18 years ago, but my other two siblings haven't bothered to stepped up to help. I guess they don't think that it's any of their responsibility. So I am on my own, taking care of my dad. I do all I can to try and make him happy. It's hard because he's so angry about everything, and always has been. He doesn't have dementia or anything like that, so I can't force him to go to the doctor. He has a DNR in his will...
After my mom passed away August of 2019, my dad didn't know what to do, so I offered him to come stay with me. He moved in with me in November... It has been mentally draining taking care of him because he's soooooo angry about everything! I just agree with him when he's talking about all the negative stuff that he seems to need to go on and on and on and on about, rather than argue with him; that would be pointless. He talks so loudly, almost shouting, about all of the injustices in his life. I don't think he even knows how to have an actual conversation with anyone. It's always a lecture about how horrible people are... I always laughed about how he's not prejudice, because he hates everybody... But with him living with me, his abrasiveness is breaking me down.... I just say to myself, "Just keep smiling."
There would be no way any outsider could care for him, or talk to him. He's so bitter. All I can do is try... He hates doctor's. I would have to physically fight with him to get him to a doctor. He's always been very angry, never letting go of things that have happened to him in his life, dating back to 77 years ago. He is 84 now.
I just don't want to be the one who gets blamed if he dies because he refused to go to a doctor to find out why he can't swallow. He has so much trouble swallowing anything, solids and liquids alike. I am just at a loss and I can't force him to see a doctor. I just need to know if it's going to be my fault if he dies.