The man in charge of conducting the care conference had promised to include me with a phone call. The time came and the Medical POA convinced him that I did not need to be there because care was medical, not financial and I was not included or even told that I would not be called. The individual in charge promised that I would receive details on the conference from the Medical POA and from him. The information I received was incomplete and what was written was in conflict - the reports varied. The man from the facility promised to answer my questions but to date has not done that. Additionally, many of the subjects touched on finance issues.
It is a MESS, and will almost certainly remain a MESS and the only answer to this sort of mess is an attorney.
I would work this out. It has NOT become a financial issue until you are asked to pay for something. Step back, calm down, and work this out with the Medical POA or pay the consequences of not being able to get along. Said consequence is-- MESS.
The car, only you have a right to sell that. And now someones in care, it can't be given to anyone. You may want to remind the director/administrator that you pay the bills, not the Medical POA. And because of that, you need to be made aware of certain things.
As for the car, my POA states that I have the right to gift anyone including me as her agent up to the IRS allowed limits of gifting. So wondering about your comment about the car. It may make sense to put it in my name or someone else's.
The organizer promised that both the medical POA and he would give me notes on the meeting. Both were brief and were not the same! While many topics could have been discussed I would have thought that all topics would have been covered by both or at least most. So I really have no idea of what was discussed. Also, as Financial POA I am in a position to evaluate the level of care that my sister is receiving and if this is not sufficient to move her from that facility.
Once again, you gave an amazing answer. Thank you!
Just another point - when I asked Attorney google he said that under HIPAA regulations long term care facilities have obligations to disclose patient information to designated individuals including family members and financial poa.