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His behavior is taking a heavy toll on my health. Where/how do I begin to look into a fiduciary who will take over handling my uncle's finances? Thank you.
Thank you to everyone who responded. My uncle is a veteran and lives in a VA Medical Foster Care home which is a private home with vetted and trained caretakers. I picked this place because it is near my job. He has lived there for 17 months now. I have been involved in his care for 4 years now. It is the paranoia, the accusations and the threats about calling the police that make me feel like I should get someone else to handle his finances. I don't know that this would make a difference for him. He would balk at paying someone to do what I do for him, but I recognize that the decision is up to me anyway. This is such a sad situation. When I messaged this forum, I was at a very low point. I am feeling better today and know that so much of this is really out of my control. Whatever decision I make, will be the best one.Thank you everyone again.
Licensed Fiduciaries should be listed on any googling or other search. They of course get paid to do this work, as you can imagine. Any Elder Law attorney is likely able to give you a list of trusted names, as well, as they typically work with them in the court system when there is no family to act as POA.
I would, were I you, see about resigning as POA and letting guardianship of the state occur for him. At this point, if he's already suffering from dementia, you are likely, if you have been serving as his POA, to have to resign through the courts who would replace you with a fiduciary hired by the court to oversee his care, placement, finances.
Go to the lawyer who did your uncle's POA documents. Many times POA documents have a second person listed who will assume the responsibility if the first cannot or bows out. Visit the probate court in the town/city your uncle lives in and have yourself removed by the court. It's not difficult. I did it when I had POA for a relative. They got unreasonable and too demanding because they believed that POA means a slave at their beck and call 24/7. It does not.
What will end up happening is that your uncle can appoint someone else and do the paperwork again, or the state will if he's mentally incompetent and there's no second listed on his POA documents.
A solution is to formally (and legally) resign as his PoA then step away from him completely and then report him to APS. They will eventually get him on a track for a court-appointed 3rd party legal guardian who will take over all his care and management and transition him into a facility.
If he isn't currently in a facility now, is there any reason you can't transition him into one? He doesn't need to know this is the plan and he doesn't need to like it or agree with it. If it is appropriate care, then whatever it takes to get him in there is acceptable.
Are you able to get him in to his doctor for an exam and a formal diagnosis of dementia (and to make sure that's in fact what is causing his behavioral issues)? He would need an exam to allow his doctor to prescribe meds for his agitation and anxiety. In his current state, a facility may not accept him.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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I would, were I you, see about resigning as POA and letting guardianship of the state occur for him. At this point, if he's already suffering from dementia, you are likely, if you have been serving as his POA, to have to resign through the courts who would replace you with a fiduciary hired by the court to oversee his care, placement, finances.
What will end up happening is that your uncle can appoint someone else and do the paperwork again, or the state will if he's mentally incompetent and there's no second listed on his POA documents.
A solution is to formally (and legally) resign as his PoA then step away from him completely and then report him to APS. They will eventually get him on a track for a court-appointed 3rd party legal guardian who will take over all his care and management and transition him into a facility.
If he isn't currently in a facility now, is there any reason you can't transition him into one? He doesn't need to know this is the plan and he doesn't need to like it or agree with it. If it is appropriate care, then whatever it takes to get him in there is acceptable.
Are you able to get him in to his doctor for an exam and a formal diagnosis of dementia (and to make sure that's in fact what is causing his behavioral issues)? He would need an exam to allow his doctor to prescribe meds for his agitation and anxiety. In his current state, a facility may not accept him.
Any nore details you can provide will be helpful.