I have durable POA. That's about the only thing she hasn't denied, but I believe it's cause it makes her look good. She always worries what people will think. Even things she is doing or causing she gets angry if I bring them up. What causes this?
Undo the agreement. She has it in her mind that she now owns the house. If you need help, set up rent and get it in writing. Have her pay a set amount to help cover expenses.
Getting it in writing will protect you if Medicaid ever gets involved.
As long as mother is making your mortgage payment, she feels like she owns you which entitles her to say & do exactly what she wants, when she wants to.
Women of that generation seem excessively concerned with appearances, and keeping up with the Joneses. Why? Who knows. Probably because they're spoiled and entitled in general, I'd think, at least that's how it is with my 92 y/o mother. Dad treated her like a queen and let her get away with murder for the 68 years they were married. Now that he's gone, she feels like it's MY turn to be her 'yes man' which ain't happenin'.
Get her out of your house and take your life back, my friend. You can still be her POA with her living elsewhere.
Does she need POA?
Are you a caregiver?
What is she threatening to do?
Getting it in writing will protect you if Medicaid ever gets involved.
What exactly is she threatening?
Women of that generation seem excessively concerned with appearances, and keeping up with the Joneses. Why? Who knows. Probably because they're spoiled and entitled in general, I'd think, at least that's how it is with my 92 y/o mother. Dad treated her like a queen and let her get away with murder for the 68 years they were married. Now that he's gone, she feels like it's MY turn to be her 'yes man' which ain't happenin'.
Get her out of your house and take your life back, my friend. You can still be her POA with her living elsewhere.
Best of luck!