Dad (99) has been taking care of Mom (97), and still thinks he can carry on. Mom is incontinent with dementia. He has been talking more, and getting forgetful. Forgets to take his medication, and give Mom hers. I live at a distance, and try to get down to help when I can. The Medicare nurse that comes in 3 times a week recommended a home health agency, and a consultant will be coming in tomorrow to talk about getting help. I am Medical POA, but was told Dad is of sound mind so I can't go over his head. Dad has fired caretakers, because he believes he is doing great, and blames Mom for getting rid of caretakers due to her yelling at them, but it's him. He is in denial of his frankness, and thinks asking for help is a sign of weakness for this WW2 vet. Anyway, the nurse recommended that if we hire a caretaker, we get cameras installed. Now, I am concerned because Mom and Dad are so vulnerable, and I am sick thinking someone could abuse them. Do background checks show enough about the caretaker? I have sent out pleas to friends in the neighborhood about anyone they know who does caretaking to no avail. Any suggestions on good caretaking agencies?