Hi Eleonor and welcome to the forum. Up top of the screen is a category called Find Care. If you click on that and fill in your info, you'll be contacted by someone from A Place For Mom about care options of interest to you at this stage of your life (82).
I would make an appointment with your local Office of Aging. They can help you with resources.
Sante fe is so nice. My GF lives not far from you and loves NM. You live in a populated area you should be resources. O of A maybe able to tell what paperwork is important to get together now. Maybe an elder lawyer to help determine what assets you can protect. Me, all our investments have beneficiaries so no probate. Bank accounts can stipulate POD (pay upon death to a certain person) so no probate there. Will, always should be a Will even if all you have is a house. Financial and Medical POA given to the closest child in miles. Never live with a child or visa versa. Be willing to go into an AL.
The most practical thing to do is you move locally to your other family, BUT not before you have a conversation with them about their willingness to be your PoA.
If they aren't willing to do this and you aren't willing to assign this legal responsibility, then do not move. Do not "assume" family into a caregiving role -- it never ends well for either party.
Make sure all your legal ducks are in a row. Make sure you have a PoA (even if it's an attorney); create a pre-need guardianship; create a trust if you have assets; create a Living Will (Advance Healthcare Directive) and Last Will.
Move yourself into a care community BEFORE a health or medical crisis.
You placed this under Living Independently. Yet in your profile you give us only "I am caring for Eleanor".
What exactly is your question regarding future care plans, living plans, options, etc. My children also live 100s and 100s of miles from me. That doesn't mean we don't visit and we don't discuss the future.
How old are you? How healthy and active are you? Have you made out POA and Will papers and your advance directive and discussed all with your family? What ideas and options do you see in your future? What assets have you saved for the options?
That's just a start. So one step at a time try to ask us one specific question at a time and we will attempt to give you some options. Best out to you.
Best of luck to you!
Sante fe is so nice. My GF lives not far from you and loves NM. You live in a populated area you should be resources. O of A maybe able to tell what paperwork is important to get together now. Maybe an elder lawyer to help determine what assets you can protect. Me, all our investments have beneficiaries so no probate. Bank accounts can stipulate POD (pay upon death to a certain person) so no probate there. Will, always should be a Will even if all you have is a house. Financial and Medical POA given to the closest child in miles. Never live with a child or visa versa. Be willing to go into an AL.
If they aren't willing to do this and you aren't willing to assign this legal responsibility, then do not move. Do not "assume" family into a caregiving role -- it never ends well for either party.
Make sure all your legal ducks are in a row. Make sure you have a PoA (even if it's an attorney); create a pre-need guardianship; create a trust if you have assets; create a Living Will (Advance Healthcare Directive) and Last Will.
Move yourself into a care community BEFORE a health or medical crisis.
Yet in your profile you give us only "I am caring for Eleanor".
What exactly is your question regarding future care plans, living plans, options, etc.
My children also live 100s and 100s of miles from me. That doesn't mean we don't visit and we don't discuss the future.
How old are you?
How healthy and active are you?
Have you made out POA and Will papers and your advance directive and discussed all with your family?
What ideas and options do you see in your future? What assets have you saved for the options?
That's just a start. So one step at a time try to ask us one specific question at a time and we will attempt to give you some options.
Best out to you.