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I get angry because I have no help and am alone in a retirement community. I miss my friends, daughter, family and everything I did in previous home area. I feel stuck, stir crazy and trapped. Mom is very needy, demanding I don't blame her, it's devastating to her not being able to see anymore. But I'm tired even when I wake up bc I don't sleep well. Should I give her something to calm her or me? I don't want to be like this especially in her last years of life, terrible since her only enjoyment was to watch TV. She loved bingo too but lost eyesight to infection when we moved here.

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Is there an Association for the Blind near you? Any other social resources for the Blind? Rather than trying to figure this all out yourself use what is available to you.

What about books on tape and podcasts? There is so much good audio available now.

What about a very furry pet that she could be attached to?

Can she learn Braille?
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How about melatonin 20 mg it is natural and i give it to my Dad who is 93 to sleep better and longer. This may help to give in the daytime to relax her more.
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I agree, call the Dept for the blind. Mom needs to be as independent as she can be. There must be activities the Community has. Maybe they have people come in for concerts. My Mom enjoyed them. You need Mom to know that you need some time to yourself so it means her being involved with some activities.
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It sounds as though your mother is in reasonable health except for blindness. How old is she, and how many years is it likely that she will live? You cannot sacrifice 10 years of your own life to live like this with her, and it might be longer - she might (like my MIL) live to nearly 100. Your own increasing problems may be a wake-up call to think things through again. It may be better to find better options now rather than go on until you are in a coping crisis yourself.

When you contact the Society for the Blind, ask if there are any facilities with special support for blind elders, and go and have a look at what they offer.
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Why not try a DVD player and headphones for her? Maybe some comedy routines from old-time comedians or shows from old radio days. The people who run the Senior community should have ideas about how to get you some help, or who you could call to find help. You are burned out and need some respite care.

What was behind your decision to leave everything behind and move away to care for your mom? Many people who post here have made the “Noble Promise” to a loved one to not ever put them in a facility not realizing how unprepared they are for the realities and downfalls of being the only caregiver. If you have siblings, time to ask them for help. Contact Medicare/Medicaid to ask about in-home health aides. Contact the Society for The Blind to see if they have a senior program Mom could attend. And, don’t completely discount a facility for your Mom. Your health and well-being is important too.
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