Im 35 my mom is 80 and has a life time of health issues. I was adopted when my parents were much older. My dad passed away 3 years ago and now it's just my mom and I. She has a ton of health issues.. anxiety, stubberness to the max. Very controlling and its her way or no way. I'm back in school to change careers and its so hard to study and concentrate when most of the focus is on her or listening to her negative comments about how her life is that and this and everything needs to drop so she can get whatever "urgent" errand done. I get my one or 2 day breaks rarely. We have a family friend stay with her when I go work out which is 2 days a week for 2 hours. I need more than that. But otherwise I'm her main caregiver. She has no regard for when I'm busy or on the phone. I can't have a girlfriend because no one wants someone who can't do much but stay at home. The moments of freedom I do enjoy and I'm barely in classes because I'll feel even more locked in my insignificance. She searches for arguments. For example today we had a pretty busy day and the evening was chill and I was supposed to load the dishwasher and I had told her I will do all of that stuff after I finish my tea that I had just made and she had agreed and it was chill all relaxed. I went to check on my class stuff for 10 min and I hear a bunch of grunting and complaining about her back this and dishes that. I walk in there and I said hey remember I was going to finish this when I'm done with my tea go relax a bit and she screamed at me that I don't do nothing and I'll never do them. And I reminded her of the convo we had and she got nasty with me so I got nasty back. :( Then she goes to bed and explains some stuff to me and is all relaxed. As if she needed that confrontation before she goes to bed to show that she has control. I'm lost here and I feel like I'm missing out on my life and opportunities that I'll never have.