You wrote that question in 2020. I so hope in that time you have gotten Social Security Disability at least SSI (supplimental income) Medicaid and Medicare. Also, you are living in a nice apt. So financially your not rich but ur making it.
At 62 what are your medical problems? I had a friend in your situation, her problem was she was passive-aggressive and expected people to do for her. She refused to use senior busing or Medicaid to get some help with an aide. I know she felt this was all below her and that friends should pick up the slack. But friends and family have lives of their own. At 62 my friend had a defibrillator and diabetes.
Could you be considered 24/7 care? If so, maybe its time to return to a NH. You can research them and find one you like. I know they are not perfect but you will have some socialization and the peace of mind that a nurse is close by if you need them.
You could also call your local Office of Aging to see if they know of any programs for companionship. Someone to call and see if your OK. Maybe visit a little each day and get you out of the house.
So sorry, but the only person you can rely on is you. You need to do the research and you need to follow thru.
On a previous thread, you wrote: "While I was living in Texas, I spent the last four years in Nursing Homes and to me it did feel like prison. There really isn’t much to do in those places. Yea they had some activities going on but not much. Maybe Bingo. You were lucky if you got outside, otherwise you were stuck in your room in bed with just the TV to watch."
I hope you're OK. I hope some friends living near you, can help you.
Gosh, you're awful young to be having bad health issues. I hope you're doing everything in your power to get healthy again. I'm 63 and live alone, but am in overall good health, and I certainly don't want to have to rely on my family if something were to come up, although they would help out best they could. But my children both work and have families of their own, so it would be selfish of me to want them to drop everything to help me. At our age it's important to a have a network of friends that we can call on if needed, and for us to be involved in many different things to be able to make new friends as well. Church is a great place for that along with many volunteer opportunities. We can't force anyone to care about us or to check on us. However we can be the ones that check in with them. Why don't you just send your family texts every now and again, checking in on them? That way they will know that you care about them,(as care has to be a 2 way street)and they will know that you're ok. You can also check with your local Senior Services, as they have volunteers that will come out and "check on you." They also have many other options that may work for you. I wish you well.
You need to take some initiative for your own health and well-being and not assume that family will step in. If you just need some one to check on you to see if you are OK and you don't need any hands on help, some areas have elder volunteers who call daily if you sign up for that service. Your local agency on aging can give you information on this and other resources. Moving to a 55+ independent living community can be helpful, or if your health is bad enough that you need closer monitoring, maybe assisted living. 62 is very young, and quite a few people on AC are caregivers themselves at this age.
Talk to your doctor about what you actually need. You don't give any details about your health or needs, so we can't really weigh in here.
This forum is for caregivers, by the way, not care-seekers, so we might not be the best place to ask. If your family is aware of your health issues and doesn't want to help, that's not really something we can address.
You wrote that question in 2020. I so hope in that time you have gotten Social Security Disability at least SSI (supplimental income) Medicaid and Medicare. Also, you are living in a nice apt. So financially your not rich but ur making it.
At 62 what are your medical problems? I had a friend in your situation, her problem was she was passive-aggressive and expected people to do for her. She refused to use senior busing or Medicaid to get some help with an aide. I know she felt this was all below her and that friends should pick up the slack. But friends and family have lives of their own. At 62 my friend had a defibrillator and diabetes.
Could you be considered 24/7 care? If so, maybe its time to return to a NH. You can research them and find one you like. I know they are not perfect but you will have some socialization and the peace of mind that a nurse is close by if you need them.
You could also call your local Office of Aging to see if they know of any programs for companionship. Someone to call and see if your OK. Maybe visit a little each day and get you out of the house.
So sorry, but the only person you can rely on is you. You need to do the research and you need to follow thru.
"While I was living in Texas, I spent the last four years in Nursing Homes and to me it did feel like prison. There really isn’t much to do in those places. Yea they had some activities going on but not much. Maybe Bingo. You were lucky if you got outside, otherwise you were stuck in your room in bed with just the TV to watch."
I hope you're OK. I hope some friends living near you, can help you.
I'm 63 and live alone, but am in overall good health, and I certainly don't want to have to rely on my family if something were to come up, although they would help out best they could. But my children both work and have families of their own, so it would be selfish of me to want them to drop everything to help me.
At our age it's important to a have a network of friends that we can call on if needed, and for us to be involved in many different things to be able to make new friends as well. Church is a great place for that along with many volunteer opportunities.
We can't force anyone to care about us or to check on us. However we can be the ones that check in with them. Why don't you just send your family texts every now and again, checking in on them? That way they will know that you care about them,(as care has to be a 2 way street)and they will know that you're ok.
You can also check with your local Senior Services, as they have volunteers that will come out and "check on you." They also have many other options that may work for you.
I wish you well.
This forum is for caregivers, by the way, not care-seekers, so we might not be the best place to ask. If your family is aware of your health issues and doesn't want to help, that's not really something we can address.