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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Guilt isn't appropriate and belongs to felons. Guilt requires that you did something evil out of evil intent, and out of evil intent you plan not to stop. The more proper word for what you are feeling is "grief": grief that you are so depleted and exhausted, and that nothing can ever be enough. And you are feeling "obligation" to make the end of life happy.
I would admit to yourself in this new year that your loved one needs the care of several shifts of people with several people working each shift, not the help of a family member who has gone from being a beloved family member to a caregiver, and who cannot conceivably supply all that is needed to someone in this state.
There are hopes and dreams and there is reality, and neither is being served in your condition. We have here seen caregivers die before the ones they are attempting care of. Sadly, there is no happy answer here. And the end of life--trust me as I am 83--isn't about happiness. I am so sorry for all you're going through.
Being exhausted is normal, so much caregiving is just exhausting, both physically and emotionally. There’s nothing to feel guilty about, her issues of aging were inevitable and not your fault. It’s okay to feel sad over it, and wish she could be better, but guilt is for those who’ve done something wrong. Please know your mother doesn’t need a frustrated, exhausted caregiver, it’s not good for either of you. You both need a new plan going forward. Don’t fear admitting that, you’ve done your best, it’s simply time for change. I wish you courage and peace
You don't give us much to go on but if your mothers care is now just too much for you it's time for plan B. That may be placing your mother in the appropriate facility using her money or Medicaid, or hiring in-home aides (with her money) to come help her so it's not all on you. You matter too in this equation please don't forget that. Your mother I'm sure would NOT want you killing yourself because of her, nor would she want you feeling guilty over anything as you've done nothing wrong. You didn't make your mother old or sick, so quit beating yourself up over doing the best you can for her. Please take care of yourself and start looking into that plan B.
Can you tell us more details? Do you and your mother live together, or do you go to where she is living? What is her financial situation? You don't need to do anything that exhausts you and threatens your own health. Think, what solutions would your mother have if you did not exist, or if you lived on the other side of the world?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The more proper word for what you are feeling is "grief": grief that you are so depleted and exhausted, and that nothing can ever be enough. And you are feeling "obligation" to make the end of life happy.
I would admit to yourself in this new year that your loved one needs the care of several shifts of people with several people working each shift, not the help of a family member who has gone from being a beloved family member to a caregiver, and who cannot conceivably supply all that is needed to someone in this state.
There are hopes and dreams and there is reality, and neither is being served in your condition.
We have here seen caregivers die before the ones they are attempting care of.
Sadly, there is no happy answer here. And the end of life--trust me as I am 83--isn't about happiness. I am so sorry for all you're going through.
That may be placing your mother in the appropriate facility using her money or Medicaid, or hiring in-home aides (with her money) to come help her so it's not all on you.
You matter too in this equation please don't forget that. Your mother I'm sure would NOT want you killing yourself because of her, nor would she want you feeling guilty over anything as you've done nothing wrong.
You didn't make your mother old or sick, so quit beating yourself up over doing the best you can for her.
Please take care of yourself and start looking into that plan B.