We're having trouble with my mother and bathing. Unfortunately she has many issues that make this hard. She has some incontinence along with bad knees that limit her ability to get to the bathroom in time. Plus the doctor has her on Lasix which makes her go a lot more often. So she uses Depends - and she doesn't change them nearly often enough. I think she just goes in underwear instead of even trying to get to the bathroom.
And then there's the showering part. She refuses to let anyone help her shower other than helping her in and out. Then she doesn't really get everything washed. Plus it's an ordeal to get her in and out of the shower because of her mobility problems.
We are getting complaints from the senior residence where she lives that she smells and they are getting complaints from other residents. Even getting her to change the Depends more often is an ordeal. Last time I was there, I insisted that she change them before we left to go to the doctors and she seemed put out by the idea but eventually complied. I can see why people are complaining, she's going aroudn with a full diaper all the time. Ugh!
It's almost like she's just stopped understanding the social implications of really bad hygiene combined with a full diaper. Any suggestions???