I want to get my life back. The burdens have fallen on me for my mom, the sale of her condo, personal care, etc. I quit my job to care for her because I felt heartsick that I have cared for my mother-in-law for 5 years this June. My mom has been declining for 2 years and she has more cognitive functioning but mobility problems, severe incontinence, and aphasia from two frontal lobe strokes - one on the right and one on the left. My mother-in-law doesn't engage in activities anymore, falls asleep all the time, even when eating. She has a pacemaker, very low blood pressure, mild incontinence and has gotten angry and agitated more often. I want to return to teaching and have done all the leg work to finally get in professional CHHAs. My husband doesn't think that my mother-in-law has declined that much in 5 years. He doesn't want to place her in a LTC facility. He is now not speaking to me and I feel horrible. I believe he feels guilty that my mother-in-law put money into the addition on our home so that she could live with us. I think he thinks my mom is now just mooching off it, because we are the only ones in the family with a large enough place for housing them both safely. I just want personal freedom and my life back. I am burned out.