Short history- my husband was adopted and is an only child. His mom was abusive and still is, shes 73 and has multiple health and I suspect mental health issues. she is mean/ diagreeable and rude in public. He says she's always been that way. I don't know how I'll keep my sanity if she moves in.. I applied for guardianship of my adult niece, after my sister died. Lisa is sweet but will never live on her own. my mother in law treats my niece as sub human. I don't know what to do.. anyone else gone through this?
have you considered charting what-if scenarios & going over these with him? If he is looking at diagrams showing scenarios & choices of outcomes it may be clearer to him ..... sometimes if you take the emotion out of it and use charts & diagrams as examples it is an easier conversation to have.
Also I am going to get some counseling and I'm checking on services that she is eligible for that will keep her in her own home.
And Lisa will always be with me, I was like her second mom, so putting her anywhere would destroy her, and she is mentally impaired but she is a also a sweet sweet kind soul, who never raises her voice or complains or is rude.
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