My husband has severe asthma for decades and fairly advanced Parkinson's for years. A serious (life-threatening) respiratory event landed him in the hospital. From there he went into rehab, where nursing home was recommended. Because there were no beds in NH, he has been placed in short-term rehab. With lots of PT there, he is doing better in terms of ADLs and also getting his respiratory needs met adequately. Meantime, I have been scrambling to qualify him for Medicaid.
I am conflicted because he wants very much to return home. If he did, it would be a struggle because he needs 24/7 care. I would have to get Medicaid to pay for it and make a space in our two-bedroom apartment for another person. (I can't sleep in the same room as him because his erratic hours are so different from mine.) On top of that, going on Medicaid has cut my income by 1/3 so I really should be looking for an apartment I can afford, which is very hard to find where I live. (That's a whole other story.)
I plan to call a team meeting at the Rehab to discuss his process and condition, and will reconnect with his long-time pulminologist to be as well-informed as possible.
To be honest, I know I will become resentful in the short run and it will not work in the long run. Yet I have this strong, nagging feeling in my gut that he deserves a chance, especially because he is such a good person and has struggled so hard with physical therapy.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.