My husband stopped going to Day care because he hated it. He did not like leaving his home. Now he doesn't want caregivers coming here? I waited two months for VA to set up caregivers coming into the home. They sent the most wonderful lady to help with 10 hours per week, which I really need after not having a break for two months. She has been coming for two weeks and yesterday he got into a heated argument with me. He raised his arm as if he were going to hit me and I got right out of his range. Then he went over to the caregiver and got into her area and told her to "get out of his home." She got right up and left because she could see that he was very agitated. She is coming back today and I see no other way to deal with it than to give him a drug that the Doc prescribed for agitation. I tried to call the doc yesterday when it happened but he never called me back. I think the drug makes him very sleepy and subdued but I have no other choice than to put him in a home. I do not want to put him in a home, but I have got to have a break every now in then. I cannot take him everywhere because of his bowel incontinence. Last week he had a bowel movement while we were in a shop and it was running down his leg. It was very embarrassing and unpleasant for the store owner. Am I right to keep him drugged while the caregiver comes to give me a break?
Feeling trapped as my world keeps getting smaller and smaller as he declines further and further.