So he likes a drink -pre Xmas a major Crisis -Im going or you get help. He did. But would like a few pints 3-4 times a week Recently admitted with pneumonia and had fluid around lungs and is retaining fluid -CCF etc Overeats. Seriously obese-116kg at 5'9" all creating massive belly. Worsening CKD is making GP hold back on weight loss jabHas had major surgery for femoral artery has a stent in heart and one in groin. Sleeps most of the day. I can try and try and to do healthy meals try to get us to do things -alcohol free BUT he sabotages. Goes for a drink with his mate . Due to fluid supposedly restricted he went in whiskey. That is 5whiskeys 3 times in 5 days plus two take out. Husctake out Indian is lamb skewer starter. Chicken tikka main chicken madras main Madras sauce onion bahjas chips and a nan.My meals includewould be chicken sometimes in a home made spicy sauce salad and a low carb wrap. He will buy sausage rolls (pastry) when out and I find the bag!!He can be unpleasantly moody if I am trying to get him to watch his sugars, his BP, not drink etc etc. Considering where his health is am I literally flogging a 'dying' horse. Should I ease up. Let him enjoy his beer-he could keep it to 14units most weeks. Can't accept size of Indian but perhaps stop trying to diet him??Any clues of life expectancy



