Baths occur maybe once a month. He uses a urinal at night. He sits in front of TV all day and naps at least 3 times a day.It is now 8:15 am and he is asleep for the first nap. He does not want to get out of the house. His children don't live near us and seldom visit. I finally told them that I need help with getting him motivated, but that was last November. They called at Christmas, but that is all. He does not want me to talk to his doctor, so I honor his privacy. I don't know how to get someone to recognize where he is at this point. He can hold everything together for a two hour visit every six months, but the daily routine of living with him is tough. I do go out to visit friends, to an exercise group, and to do the things necessary to maintain our home. If I rat him out to the doctor, I am afraid that it will backfire and he will be even harder to live with. Surely, many others have been through this. His comment is that I am overly sensitive if I say anything, but I think the issue is getting serious. Help!