My mother is in her 90's and even with hearing aids, I have to almost shout at her. With dementia, I also have to repeat myself many times. Its very stressful but I only deal with that a few times a week.
Now my husband is going deaf - he has known it for two years and has promised to get hearing aids for TWO YEARS. He does not have dementia, is only in his 70's. He is the king of procrastinators. I have tried being nice, persuasive, telling how he appears to others, how it affect me, begging, getting angry - all to no avail.
Now I am mostly angry, and I don't want to be. I love him dearly, but having to repeat 80% of what I say is really getting to me. Its especially hard because he blames ME! I don't talk loud enough, I mumble, I talk with my back to him. etc etc - always that I am the one who is wrong - and you all know how that feels, being blamed for something you didn't do! The tv is always too loud, I have to ask him to turn it down - he gets annoyed. He doesn't hear in restaurants, I have to repeat everything the waitress says to him. He doesn't catch half of what is said in meetings. It makes him look senile - and he isn't. He is just deaf and too lazy to do anything about it but he has plenty of time to play on the computer and do other stuff. I don't like being annoyed and grouchy at him, but this is getting worse, not better. HELP!