My sweet husband is at an AWKWARD STAGE OF DEMENTIA. He tries to be independent, but creates so many problems for me. He doesn't come to bed til about 2 am. Then he turns on all the lights, shaves, showers, and then fills the bathtub for a bath. An hour later, he crawls into bed. After being kept awake for that hour, I have to get up and fuss with his bi-pap machine to get his mask on right because he puts it on so tight that he has even cut into his cheeks. The mask leaks all night and wakes me several times.
SLEEP DEPRIVATION is becoming a really big problem for me not only because of him, but the older dogs we had rescued. I am so exhausted that I am making big mistakes now too.
After I go to bed around 9:00, he gets up and starts looking around for junk food, for his bottles of liquor that I found hidden and disposed of, meds, and other things that he feels are comfort for him. I can't sleep with him going through the house. The next morning, I find problems that he has created. And sleeping meds do not work on him.
SEDENTARY LIFESTYLE is an issue as well for him. I can't keep him active so that he will be tired at night. If left alone, he will watch TV 18 hours a day. I try to take him for a walk, for activities at the senior center, etc., He doesn't want to participate. He just wants to sit and watch TV. I can't live his life for him or keep myself tied to him 24/7.
How do others deal with their sleep deprivation with sick loved ones when there is no one to lend a hand at night?
And How do others keep their loved ones active when they don't want to be? How can I keep him from becoming a vegetable in front of the TV for 18 long hours?
Any magic pill?????