My 77 year old mother in law lives alone in Tennessee, my husband and I live in Florida. He is an only child and a she has no close family or friends that live near her.
She was diagnosed with Poems (Polyneuropathy, Organomegaly, Endocrinopathy, Monoclonal protein, Skin changes) back in March of this year and was in a nursing home for a few months but insisted on leaving the home and going home and there was nothing we could do to stop her (we tried). She is now stuck at home alone 24 hours a day 7 days a week (that cannot be good for anyone) she is wheelchair bound, and cannot drive. She is now showing signs of memory loss such as forgetting things that she would normally know off the top of her head, she is also taken to hoarding as well. She is starting to say hurtful things to my husband, things that would have never come out of her mouth before, and making irrational decisions that make no sense, she also bothers the neighbors all the time, and we have caught her in quite a few lies as well. We don't have any help with her and cannot constantly fly back and forth from Florida to Nashville every time she starts acting up. My husband is in complete denial about all of these things and keeps making excuses for her or saying that everything will be okay. We have taken her car keys away from her so she won't attempt to drive.
I am not sure if there is anything that we can do to keep her safe. And I don't know how to get my husband to see that everything is NOT okay, so that we can do something before she hurts herself or someone else.
Any advice that I can get would be greatly appreciated.