My husband has pretty severe night incontinence and refuses to use the bedside commode I bought which fits into a small alcove within three feet of his side of our bed. He insists on using a urinal bottle but all too often misses and urinates on the carpet, the side of the bed and himself. I have a waterproof sheet and large pads tucked everywhere and inbetween sheet and matress and on the floor but he manages to dislodge them. I have tried so hard to calmly help him change clothes, guide him to the bathroom which us also closely, have a rope light around the edge of the bed, but this morning I finally got angry when he would not let me help change his wet shirt. I am putting the commode up again and need suggestions as to how to better handle his stubborness about using the commode. He also urinates on the bathroom floor. I have tried restricting liquids from early afternoon until bedtime. Help!