This is so hard for me , I have no family here , great friends but can't burden them . I am working and I freak when I leave the house . Thinking about putting him in adult day care . Thoughts
Adult daycare isn’t putting him somewhere, it’s providing you both a break from the home routine. It’s important for you both. Please also find a local support group for yourself, no one should walk this path on your own. Even an online support group is better than not having one. Consider hiring a helper in home for whatever number of hours a week will work for you, do not ask husband to accept or be okay with this, just say it’s something you need for yourself. Educate yourself all you can about your husband’s illness and how to best deal with it, check out the videos on you tube by Teepa Snow as she’s been a huge help to many. And realize if the circumstances are overwhelming and you find you cannot do it, it’s okay, that’s when memory care becomes your next option. I’m sorry life isn’t turning out as you’d likely thought it would, that’s a huge blow, and maybe the source of some of the anger. I wish you peace in learning to best cope
You asked this same question yesterday, and have several replies to it. Your question from yesterday is now on page 2 of the questions, so you may want to read what others already posted.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-husband-has-frontotemporal-dementia-i-dont-know-how-to-handle-it-i-get-so-angry-and-i-know-its-no-480365.htm