What can I give him to do so he feels he is helping out? My husband and I are planning to move to FL the first of Feb. He has a very bad right shoulder, rotator cuff non repairable except for total reversal which we have decided he cannot tolerate the surgery for many reasons. So basically he is a one armed man now so what can I have him do ? He cries because he says he is so sorry for being so useless. Makes me sad. Help?