He is only going one day a week. I was hoping to get him into the two days a week so I could have some free time for myself. He has expressed that he doesn't like it. Says the others are all goofy! Most are more severely disabled than he is. He has gone a total of four times. Yesterday he got up at 5 AM to tell me that he is not going again. He says, "This is my house, right?" and I said yes. He says, "I want to stay here. I'm not going!" Then he swore at me and stamped his feet on the ground. He has always been very gentle and never violent. He has never hit me and this is the first time yelling at me. We have been married for 35 years. I was actually scared of him yesterday and just backed away from him. He barely talks to me because he has lost most of his vocabulary. He is not logical about anything. I said you are going so I can have some free time. He said he would just stay home alone. I told him he can't be alone because of having run down the highway, fallen and was helicoptered to Washington DC hospital center about five months ago. It took me three hours to find him because he was a John Doe. He now has a GPS Bracelet on at all times. He cannot remove it or he would have done so by now.
What should I do now? Can I make him go? I do not know how to handle this. He did not want a person here watching him either. He said, "I am not a baby and I don't need a babysitter. I really need these few hours of time to myself! He is in his 9th year of Alzheimer's. But really getting bad this past year.