She is healthy but will not listen to any suggestions. She argues every day and is very lonely. She only wants my husband to help with things and the guilt she gives him is unbelievable. We have difficulty going anywhere as she invites herself to go all the time. If we say "no" she belittles us into trying to get us to change our mind.
My husband's brother refuses to help. He has issues of his own. There is no other family.
She refuses any social services (companions, senior activities, etc.).
She believes we are lying to her, and keeping secrets every day, so my husband tells her everything. (I disagree) She wants to eat out everyday and gets upset if we say "no". If we eat out she complains about the service, food, cleanliness of the establishment.
She still drives, which we feel she should not. We are fearful she will have an accident. Her walking is very unbalanced, but refuses to discuss this with the DR. and refuses to allow my husband to talk to the DR.
She has hearing aids, she needs them, but makes excuses why she does not wear them. She has slight dementia, is paranoid, and has a lot of anxiety. Putting this all together makes life very difficult. Unfortunately (fortunately) my husband is retired, and she feels he should respond to her every beck and call. I know my husband loves his mother, but he does not like her.
Unfortunately my husband does not want to spend money or time on counseling.
Can anyone offer any suggestions?