My husband of 21 years is now my caregiver. Over the past few years the amount of help I've needed has increased. I bring almost nothing to the table in terms of day-to-day family chores, etc. Going to the bathroom is the only thing I can do by myself.
He works 7 nights a week at a paying job, plus does it all - laundry, cleaning, shopping, cooking - everything. On top of that he maintains my oxygen equipment, helps me with ADLs, and oh yeah we have a 16 year old daughter who is a handful!
The problem is this - he never complains to me, never says he's tired of frustrated or depressed or anything. I've tried to talk to him but he insists he's fine.
He can't be, and before he blows a gasket (in his heart or his brain) I'd like him to talk to somebody, go to a support group, anything. I've managed to save some money, I offered to hire a maid service even just for a month. He said no and proceeded to steam clean the entire house.
I'm actually afraid he'll wake up one morning and just walk away.