When I do see them I have tried to tell them about diagnosis of moderate to severe dementia but they blow me off because he can hold it together for an hour or two and they don't realize how vunerable and paranoid and negative he is. We have been married for 25 years and they resent me just because I have a heart beat. How do I handle them believing his false accusations? He thinks I am hiding documents, stealing, claims I scream at him all the time, says I won't get him new clothes that he asked for----ALL NOT TRUE, NONE OF IT. I have always been a problem solver but this situation is getting way over my head.