I am the sole caregiver to my mother.I bought her a mobile home many years ago but she now lives with me and my roommate for 1 1/2 years. I have "spoiled" her the years but I love her. I took her on many wonderful vacations, all expenses paid by me; I bought her groceries when she lived on her own in another state; I bought her a car; I loved buying her things and I helped to pay expenses at her mobile home. She receives minimum social security every month and I don't keep HER money separate because frankly her every need is met. For example, I give her any catalogs that arrive and say mom, order what you want. Believe me, she does. I pay for the trip expenses to take her to her mobile home monthly to see her other family. I pay for her meals when we travel. I buy her groceries, whatever she wants. I pay for prescription costs. The list goes on and on. If she were in a nursing home, the home would take all of her social security check by $71.00! She has a son and she worries about him and her grandchildren/great grandchildren. This past Christmas, she order gifts for them and I never kept "track" of the costs because like I said, she is NEVER told she can't buy something, ever. Frankly it is just easier for me to put her little bit of money in with mine Believe me i am a selfmade woman who has on her own earned a good income i don"t need any of her money nor would i ever take it so last night she me honey i don"t mean to hurt your feelings but every month i want to keep track of what i spend as i want to have some savings! i said sure so i am going to get her a separate checking account and tell her you are now on your own write checks for the few bills you have and send money to your loser family if you want i hope the group can understand whey this hurt my feelings aM i wrong? I have spent thousands and thousands and thousands on her over the years. I have her in my home. She doesn't pay a dime towards rent/utilities in my home. I would never expect that. Actually, I am not only hurt I am angry. I bought her hearing aides for $3,000 and paid for them. When she was in facitlities for 2 1/2 years recupering from open heart surgery, I was the only one who watched out for her. I took off from work three months and slept in my car at a parking garage in Pittsburgh to be at her beckon call. Just last week she ordered about $150 from catalogs. Believe me, if she wants a separate record keeping, she will find that she is "short" many months. I just find the way she feels about this to be disrespectful to me. I would love other's opinions here. She contantly worries about her son. He once and a while checks on her mobile home, out of state, and you would think he hung the moon! I am 62 years old and honestly feel as though she takes me for granted. I have paid out of pocket for repair work at her mobile home. How do I deal with this?