On 1/27/16 My Mother was taken to the emergency room due to extreme back pain, that prevented her from even taking a step, when she stood up to walk back to her bedroom. Once in the hospital, an MRI was done and determined she had lung cancer that had metestasized to her back. There was no cure. Recommendation was to allow her to go to the floor that Hospice was on in order to regulate pain medicine for a couple of days, and then take her home. We opted to get her on the floor and settled in before giving her the news. However, upon entering the Room, Hospice took over with heavy sedation, and we never got to have a coherant conversation with her from that time on. They would not try to give her water, nutrition, nothing. And forbid us from doing so as well, saying we would make matters worse. 6 days later she died. We will never get over allowing Hospice to take over and shorten our Mothers life. The grieving is more for the decision we made, which prevented us from spending a few final moments of quality time with her. How do we ever get over this type of grief...It feels like we stood by, and watcher her being Murdered, with no ability to stop what was going on. Every time we started to object or ask questions, we were told they were doing what was best, and if we stopped them, it would be worse for her. I think anybody who came to the hospital and was denied nutrition but given extreme sedatives would die as well in a short time, and I don't understand what gives hospice the right to determine this.