I am 32, an RN, and legal guardian for my mother. My career has suffered. How can I use the guardian in a resume?

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there are so many details as to what has happened over the last 7 years.as a stated previously I am a registered nurse who had a stellar career up until my mom had a brain injury in 2007. I was dealing w depression prior to this and had left a great job to try out another that did nor work out. When my mom who manipulated me my entire childhood while she battled alcoholism which was very severe had a traumatic brain injury I became her legal guardian with no support but constant critisism then I would have never imagined from all friends and family. I have to say that I wanted would think being a registered nurse and having some knowledge of the medical field would be able to navigate the system with more easy than a late person it is not true. My mother was a lot to handle for every place that she wants you she was kicked out of her nursing home and no services were set up for her the Department of Health and Human Services in the county would not help me a judge even yelled at them that they should have helped me more and I was forced to live with me and I tried to work but under the stage at most three months at a few jobs until I finally decided to take unemployment, and nasty out loud I arranged for her care. see it did not work need to be involved in her care at all and bought it and every way.she had a criminal past and was put in jail because she had a warrant out at the time of her life I'm at the time of her brain injuries.I need somebody phone calls to prevent that from happening but its still dead or what eventually I was able to get over as able to get her out of the system as a whole person on probation. Also whenever she was hospitalized for recurring I meant believable relapses that happened to your early every moment she was alone they would send her home even though I said she was not able to be in my own home for care that she needed 24 hour watchful support. I thought support and love found why didn't die I'm at home I thought was the answer to my prayers but ended up becoming extremely abusive. I feel like I kind of gave up on life now the process of filing bankruptcy which was suppose to be completed yes ago but has been extended and extended. I carry so much shame for that I have done and just feel like I am the biggest idiot in the world. The best part of the story though is that I did find a okay lady friend and became pregnant in 2010 and had a little boy. Although I am the same thing that I was not married and had a child out of wedlock and thankful everyday that I have a son. My father soon started to support me more financially and my sons father has to be involved in my life. Now it's time for me to take care of me and I'm having a difficult time doing so. My sons father lives with bees and worked he supports my needs but has become extremely resentful. I am able to survive because of government benefits. This all so embarrassing. Anyways, I hope someone out there can give me a bit f hope. How can I use the guardianship as an asset on a resume. I need a job as soon as possible. I can't let myself go anymore. PS anyone give me your ideas of how to get back into nursing and maintain employment. last year at this time I went back to a job that I had had for 6 months in 2009 but it only lasted a month and I was let go you too just ate a whole mess of problems at the clinic I was a manager in the nursing department and they let go of all the administration due to some state complaint that were made for the clinic. II did work as an eye on call ivy nurse specialist for this home and other places just going in for the ideal I'm taking I give out it was a little work but at least it fill insome of the gaps. I guess and wondering how bad does this sound for my a career and does anyone have any advice positive time did you leave please about how my life to still be good and be happy lovely self without having to get love from other people sacrificing myself for them. to at least is in a good place where she's able to be safe I love she's f****** miss it sounds like a lot of work with her to just get hurt to borrow a break the rules get to selldon't want to sound like a victim, but in many ways I have been or at least feel like it atthis point in my life.

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Dear kktrvin – As I write this, four responses have been posted to your question. Hopefully you can understand from reading them that WRITING A RESUME IS THE LEAST OF YOUR WORRIES.

Are you still guardian for your mother? If so, please get legal advice immediately on how to get OUT of that. If you cannot afford a lawyer, find the legal aid agency in your area and request help from them.

And you do seem to seriously need counseling and perhaps medication to settle yourself down enough to think straight about what to do next.

Meanwhile, there's no reason for you to feel badly about yourself. All you've done is to try and live your life the best you can, just like the rest of us. In the process, you've taken too much on yourself and you can't handle it. This is perfectly normal. But please get help right away.

Blessings to you for peace and clarity in the very near future.
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I am glad you re posted about how you were using voice activation. I use it too and many times words and phrases are very messed up. But knowing this, I try to go back and edit even so I don't catch everything. Maybe this was impossible on your cracked tablet screen.

You have reached out for help and I want to be supportive but the only way to do that is to be brutally honest. Even discounting errors from the tablet's voice recognition program, like blannie has already said, your writing is too long and very unfocused.

As I was trying to read what you wrote and make sense of it, I said to myself that it looked partially like a voice recognition problem but also the writing of a person where English is not your first language. I don't know that for sure but am I correct? I feel this because, again even accounting for voice activation mistakes, there are run-on sentences, with out punctuation or capitalization in many cases, and so often the wrong verbal tense being used. I wouldn't expect this level of writing from an RN and if ur job seeking, you will NEVER want to write to anyone in this same way that you have written to us.

This sentence is a good example of how someone could be confused by what you've written: "The best part of the story though is that I did find a okay lady friend and became pregnant in 2010 and had a little boy."

- note - i use my android phone and for some reason my keyboard has locked up and I can only get lower case input - I'm going to have to post what I've written so far hoping it will unlock the keyboard and I can continue
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Hi Katie, your post was a bit hard to follow, since there is very little punctuation and some of the sentences didn't make a lot of sense. It is almost like you dictated it and sentences got scrambled together.

From what I could figure out, It sounds like you've been through a lot and are now trying to get back to work in the nursing field. Since you were on unemployment, can the WI state counselors help you with your job search? Check for local churches that do job search counseling. As a long-time human resources person, I can tell you that you need to be very concise and confident in telling your story about your past work history. What you've posted above is way too long and too unfocused. So get some counseling to help you condense and sharpen up your work history. If you can get some free (or sliding scale) counseling about your relationship with your mother and how that's affected your self confidence, that would be good too. And also work on the shame you feel. Shame doesn't help any of us! I believe nurses are in pretty high demand, so I am sure that once you get your story a bit refined and get out there looking, you can find a job that will help you get you back on track.
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Pls excuse the typos. I was using voice activated typing. It really
My screwed up and some parts of what I was saying ended up in different areas. My tablet screen is cracked and I don't have the time to try to type my question out. I think my main point got across ok . Can someone still help me by overlooking the mess of a very messy story and just give me advice for my resume. Thank you to all who contribute to this site. It has been such a blessing to me.
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Go on this site to caregiver support and then go to Getting paid to take care of an elderly parent....maybe you should be getting paid as an RN doing private duty! That is what you are doing. You may find some one there in your shoes dear to be of more help to you! God bless I feel your pain I too take care of my mom......not fun after 10 years, I try to remain positive, see my kids and grands when I can but its rough and my husband was laid off in August at age 60
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