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Does your loved one have a "Living Will" that states whether they want CPR to be done if they have no pulse or are not breathing? Who is your loved one's Medical/Health POA and Financial POA? Whomever is taking care of your loved one should have POA so that they can make medical and financial decisions for your loved one when they are no longer able to. Is your loved one living at home or are they in a LTC (Long Term Care/Nursing Home) facility?

The more information that you provide us, the better we can support you during this time of stress and sadness and future loss. {{{HUGS}}}
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People experience differ symptoms when they die depending on the illness or disease that they have. People with kidney disease experience different decline of organ function than those with congestive heart failure or those with Alzheimer’s or dementia, or those with cancer. Your profile does not have any information about your loved one. It would help us if we knew what illnesses or diseases your loved has. Then we could be more specific as to what to expect when your loved one is dying.

Aging Care has a webpage titled “End-of-Life Care: Signs That Death Is Near”
According to webmd:
There are changes you can expect to see as an adult body stops working. These are a normal part of dying.
1 to 3 months before death, your loved one is likely to:
--Sleep or doze more
--Eat and drink less
--Withdraw from people and stop doing things they used to enjoy
--Talk less (but if they're a child, more)

1 to 2 weeks before death, the person may feel tired and drained all the time, so much that they don't leave their bed. They could have:
--Different sleep-wake patterns
--Little appetite and thirst
--Fewer and smaller bowel movements and less pee
--More pain
--Changes in blood pressure, breathing, and heart rate (such as difficulty breathing)
--Body temperature ups and downs that may leave their skin cool, warm, moist, or pale
--Congested breathing from the buildup in the back of their throat
--Confusion or seem to be in a daze
--Breathing trouble
--Have a hard time taking medicine by mouth.
--Hallucinations and visions, especially of long-gone loved ones, can be comforting. If seeing and talking to someone who isn't there makes the person who's dying happier, you don't need to try to convince them that they aren't real. It may upset them and make them argue and fight with you.

When death is within days or hours, your loved one may:
--Not want food or drink
--Stop peeing and having bowel movements
--Grimace, groan, or scowl from pain
You may notice their:
--Eyes tear or glaze over
--Pulse and heartbeat are irregular or hard to feel or hear
--Body temperature drops
--Skin on their knees, feet, and hands turns a mottled bluish-purple (often in the last 24 hours)
--Breathing is interrupted by gasping and slows until it stops entirely
--If they're not already unconscious, your loved one may drift in and out. But they probably can still hear and feel.

At the End
In the last days or hours, your loved one may become restless and confused and have hallucinations so upsetting they may cry out, strike out, or try to climb out of bed. Stay with them. Try to keep them calm with soothing music and gentle touch. Sometimes medication helps.

The room should be well lit, but not bright. Make it as quiet and peaceful as possible. Constantly assure them that you're there.

Ironically, a loved one may also become clear-headed in their final hours.

When to Say Good-bye
One of the hardest decisions is when to call in people to say good-bye and to make memories for the future.

Let family members and close friends know as soon as it's obvious that death is near. The care team can help you all prepare for what's coming, both what will happen to your loved one and your own physical and emotional reactions. Being together allows family members to support each other, too.

Even though you've gathered, don't assume it means you'll be there at the end. Often the person doesn't die until those who sat with them for hours have left, as if he or she was unable to let go while the ones they loved were there.

Help and Support
Caregivers, families, and friends of someone who is dying can turn to:

Family Caregiver Alliance
Hospice Foundation of America
National Caregivers Library
National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization
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