My sis is in her 80's and I am the only person she trusts to be her executrix; she has 3 children but she doesn't feel any one of them would be good alternatives.
She lives an extremely dysfunctional life. No money, lots of bills, but has a lot of expensive jewelry and "things". Doesn't trust her husband either. What has changed my mind is that we live 3 hours apart and it would be difficult for me to fulfill all the obligations. She wants to update her trust and is supposed to be working on that (we saw an attorney 11 months ago) but she doesn't get around to doing the cataloging of who she wants to get specific things. There will most likely be a lot of family competition therefore a lot of stress. Her husband is controlling, manipulative, and revengeful if he doesn't get his way. There is so much more to this family's sad, sad dynamics-too many to include in this conversation. At this point, I don't feel I can do all that would be required and the stress for me would also be huge but I feel guilty in that I will be letting her down. Suggestions please.