My mom lives with my husband and me. She's 95. I'm the only living child to care for her. She's been her for about 9 yrs. She wants everything done for her. Doctors and physical therapists have told her she needs to stay active and move or she will end up in a nursing home. I don't want that and she says she doesn't either. So, I quit making her bed and fixing her breakfast & lunch. I only fix dinners for her. She has to fold her own clothes but I fold the sheets. I take care of her meds and balance her check book and pay her bills for her. She will not communicate to me when she really needs help with something. She just said moans and groans and makes faces or gets mad & pouts. I can ask her a direct question and get a lot of dialogue but no real answer. Even questions that should required only a yes or no. I often have to play 20 questions with her to drag anything out of her. She has often commented that she thinks she would be a good actress. She's a manipulator. I want to know if I should keep keeping her as active as possible & not start doing more for her. I honestly believe she will start to go down hill if I do that. For instance when she had some knee pain a couple of years ago, the orthopedist recommended she stay off of it for 6 wks even though nothing showed up on X-ray other than a little arthritis. Well after 6 wks she literally couldn't get into the car. Her primary care doc said that was the worst thing she could do. Sometimes I just think I've been letting all her dramatics get to me. But like my husbands said its hard to tell what true and what's not. By the way, her knee didn't quit hurting after the six weeks. She always has pain somewhere. Not long after she moved in with us, she was still driving, she feel in the shower while we were gone for the day. Laid there for 8 hrs, broke her ankle. When I got home she was in hospital. My husband got home first. She didn't call out. Didn't try to get to phone. She just tapped on the wall. Anyway, at the hospital I and the docs asked her several times why she fell. She said she didn't know, just fainted she thought. I asked her if her back was hurting, and she said no several times. That's her pat answer when anything goes wrong. She was very adamant that it was not her back. She had to have surgery then a few months in the nursing home. She wasn't very cooperative in nursing home. After got home, she didn't want to continue PT. Docs and Pts all told her she would do much better with keeping active.