Mom and Step-dad (Dad is deceased) enlisted me as their POA (and executor of their trust) to handle their affairs when they no longer could. Mom was declared incapacitated earlier this year but I have been taking care of her finances long before that. She's not good at this so she asked me to step in (she's now debt free). My sister, feeling left out of these decisions, has been writing checks and forging Mom's signature and paying some bills. Of course I see these checks on Mom's bank statements and have asked her to stop and just hold the bills until I come to see her (every two weeks). After some leg work, I finally got Mom's paychecks moved to a new account. I left the old account open with just enough funds to cover groceries, meds, and trips to the hair and nail salons. It's hard to hold my sister accountable. Even after lengthy texts explaining the consequences of forgery (although not malicious), she still continues writing and forging checks. I will do all I can to stop this.
Problem is I don't know what my next step is. She is also withholding information about the caregiver she and my niece (her daughter who lives at Mom's home with husband and 2 kids rent/utility free) have hired. I've allowed them to do this because they are there more than me. But my sister won't even give me the lady's phone number so we can talk about rate and days worked. I'm trying very hard, given my own schedule, to keep as accurate records as possible. It's my fiduciary duty and I am serious about Mom's finances and property (which I'm also joint tenants with her). I basically hold all the cards but am being disrespected. I'm also a senior (70 yrs.) and need support in this matter. I'm not a yelling, all up in your face kinda person. BTW Mom doesn't want to move to an assisted living facility or we would have been gone and I wouldn't be writing this. So the bottom line is this: Does any of this constitute abuse ? If not, is there an agency where I can file a complaint. I've looked at the county's APS but not sure if this fits. Mom's home is beautiful so I understand why they're so resentful toward me. I didn't ask for this, but I understand why I was asked. There's much more to the story but I'm just here searching for options.