My mother is moving here to Montana to be near me. She has been living with my brother and his family in Colorado. She has completely alienated everyone in the house to the point that the only person who will speak to her is my brother.
She is moving into a retirement village near me. It's a 30 minute drive in good weather.
Her mental capacity is fine, however , she is a full blown narcissist. Even though she knows that I am still completely overwhelmed with unexpectedly becoming my Aunts caregiver, she chose NOW to move closer to me! I assume it's in part because I am giving my Aunt attention.
She hasn't been happy anywhere for 20 years.
I'm her only daughter (3 brothers).
She has always lived vicariously through me. Her constant criticism of me makes me crazy. Everything from my curly hair to my bath towels are too big! Really??
I'm sure some of ya'll have been thru this. How did you deal with it? What works and what didn't?