My mother-in-law moved in with us three months ago. She broke her hip in a fall. also has COPD, A-Fib, & CHF. She is in our living room (hospital bed, easy lift chair, wheelchair, walker, table etc). First couple weeks she would throw fits like a toddler. Screaming about whatever she decided she wasn't going to do anymore, drink water, take her meds, change her clothes etc. She had been living in her home with my SIL as her caregiver. My SIL was not taking care of herself or my MIL, not following through with doctors, meds, nutrition or basic care/hygiene. This is why we moved my MIL in with us. I have gotten all of these things under control for my MIL now. I have been encouraging SIL to do the same for herself while she has this break as a caregiver. My SIL does not work & lives rent free in my MIL house. Me & my husband both run our own businesses, run a farm & have young kids still at home, plus grown kids now with grand babies. We have paid & sent help to my SIL house to make it livable for my MIL to return. (My SIL is a hoarder) This weekend we moved MIL back with SIL. Two hours later SIL had a heart attack. I rushed from work to get my MIL who was left alone after SIL went to hospital. While I then went to hospital my husband called & said there were roaches everywhere & her dogs extremely overgrown toenails were bleeding all over the new carpet we paid for. There wasn't any food in the house, or sheets/blankets/pillows for my MIL to sleep with. I have insisted my MIL get PT/OT, eat properly, drink water, get her INR tests, take her meds. Her health and baseline has improved drastically. She is better than she has been in 10years, yet she still wants to be in her own home. She can not cook, clean, bathe/dress or remember to take her meds herself so she can not live alone. She is also a fall risk. we brought her back to our home against her wishes to stay by herself til my SIL got back from the hospital. Im burnt out. Two days ago her constant moaning drove me absolutely insane. I am frustrated, angry, exhausted, scared, and generally irritated beyond belief. My SIL keeps blaming everyone & everything for her medical condition. Her blood sugar was over 300 for two months, all the while I'm begging her to go to the doctor. Its clear she is not going to change. Now what to do? Keep MIL at our home? Send her back in unsanitary conditions knowing she will deteriorate? This is so frustrating. I have had bad days the last few months, but I have always been able to get some sleep & start fresh the next with a smile & joy. Today I woke up still irritated/frsutrated/angry. How do you start fresh when you feel at rock bottom? any help suggestions much appreciated.