Hi all - I’ve seen this discussed, but couldn’t find past threads. Moved Mom into memory care on Friday (she thinks it’s temporary, of course) since she needs oral surgery... this allowed me to do what she pretty much needed at this point anyway.
Where/how can I read, listen, learn, practice - about accepting the bargain of what care she will receive, what won’t be as good as the way I ran things, etc.? Hope I’m asking this question clearly. I went a lot the first few days, checking the meds (at first they messed up!), can see she’s not drinking enough water, listening to her complaints about the food (it IS only passable)..
It’s a fine establishment, they’re only human, she’ll always be unhappy about something, things likely wouldn’t be better anywhere else. Just at that point where I need to let go in some ways, but also monitor and fix what should be fixed, but no more...
We’re not on a long curve here, she’s nearing end of life. Thanks for any pointers on handling my mental state during this change. :)