Hi. My mom is 71 and has dementia. Its gotten must worse in the past 12 months and my Dad can no longer take care of her on his own.
She no longer recognizes Dad as her husband but thinks he's a distant relative who lives with her. We need to separate them as he has major burn-out and we are worried for his health also.
She also has anosognosia which means she doesn't realize anything is wrong and believes she is perfectly fine to take care of herself.
She becomes extremely angry and leaves the room anytime we bring up a care home. She says she is fine to take care of herself, that nothing is wrong, and that she's not ready to go to a home. She thinks all care homes are essentially for people who can't take care of themselves or hospices where old people go to die. She won't even consider touring a retirement or assisted living home to see that they are actually very nice places.
We have power-of-attorney and could force her... but I think we would physically need to tie her up to get her through the door. I don't want it to be traumatic.
We're thinking of maybe turning the water off and saying the water in the house froze due to the recent very cold weather...
Any suggestion on how do we get her into a care home?