Mom is not grooming, eating or taking her meds. My sis goes over daily and insists on her eating. mom wants to die at home. We have made arrangements to move her to assisted living. How do we tell her when she is so bull-headed and refuses. My sis wants to take her to lunch then say her house has something wrong and we can't go back for 4 weeks till fixed. Drive her to assisted living and her things will all be there. Is this a good idea, nurse said they do this a lot. Any other suggestions?