Mom’s health is declining, impacting her mobility, vision, memory, and general well-being. There is not much she can do for herself as she has taken several falls which took her already crippled back in the wrong direction. My husband and I retired in the last 5 years. I lost my only sibling 6 years ago and mom’s family are also gone. She is the last one standing, well, lying, in bed a lot at the time now. Due to physical pain and limitations, her only outings are to medical apts and an occasional ride to the beach or sitting in the car while I shop for her. She is tired and I am tired. We have a caregiver who comes in 2 mornings a week, and it feels like jail break on those days. I would like to know what the best situation for us would be at this time. Because of my feelings of responsibility and loving my mom, I feel guilty about the idea of her residing somewhere else. At the same time, my husband and I are deferring our retirement dreams, in part due to mom. I never thought about her living well into her 90’s, with lots of wear and tear but no major terminal condition. Just a slow and steady chipping away of her life force….and ability to take care of her needs and joys of daily living. I’m wondering if her primary care doc could help with an assessment of her needs and where to get those met? Has anyone had an outstanding good experience with a geriatric care assessment by a geriatric care manager? Or do I leave well enough alone? Any input, would be so appreciated. Thanks!