Usually a Nursing home becomes the persons residence so mail is gotten there. Put in her name in the Town/State u think she is. If you find her call the facility and ask for her room#. If she is not there, they will tell you no one by that name is there. Just say sorry must have got the wrong info. Don't ask if she is there, act like you know she is there. You may need to call around. If daughter is only relative, she may have moved her nearer her.
You're going to have a tough time getting any information if you do not have POA. I would continue to reach out to the niece and in a kind and not demanding way. If your sister has chosen her own daughter as her POA then that's that.
Send cards to your niece and ask her kindly to fwd them to your sis.
If you feel your sister is being coerced or abused, then calling APS may work--but they may find that sis is fine and is OK with the lack of communication.
Sis actually has every right to 'disappear'--like I often say "families are great, until they're not".
@geaton777 @morethanthat1 Thanks for your replies and ideas. I believe she is POA. I think my sister needs to have care, but would like her current address to be able to call or send her cards. My niece lives in another state, so I'm not sure what she does with her mail. Also, not sure why she doesn't want to share her actual where abouts. and my two sisters and I have trust issues with her. My sister's phones go to voice mail, so I assume that means they are connected. The police who went to her house and talked to a neighbor said it is sad, but legally they can't give out that information.
Maybe call the State responsible for Elderly and they can help. Otherwise you would need to Google search all he Nursing Elderly Care Homes and hope they will assist. They protect their residents privacy at all these homes so it would be a challenge. Good Luck
Send cards to your niece and ask her kindly to fwd them to your sis.
If you feel your sister is being coerced or abused, then calling APS may work--but they may find that sis is fine and is OK with the lack of communication.
Sis actually has every right to 'disappear'--like I often say "families are great, until they're not".
Good Luck.
Thanks for your replies and ideas. I believe she is POA. I think my sister needs to have care, but would like her current address to be able to call or send her cards. My niece lives in another state, so I'm not sure what she does with her mail. Also, not sure why she doesn't want to share her actual where abouts. and my two sisters and I have trust issues with her. My sister's phones go to voice mail, so I assume that means they are connected.
The police who went to her house and talked to a neighbor said it is sad, but legally they can't give out that information.