My mother-in-law never accepted me. I've been married for 30 years and now MIL is 87. She is verbally abusive to my FIL, negative, and guilt rides all family members. My husband is depressed and own health suffering (weight gain, prediabetic, walks in sleep, snores terribly). MIL calls him 2-3 times a day to talk about how "I should be dead." Because my MIL has never accepted me, I cannot help. Most of the responsibility lies on my husband and because he believes in "honor they mother and father" he feels he must be available 100%, regardless of his own work and family responsibilities. I want my husband to talk to others in the same situation but not sure where to go. I've lost my job so we can't afford much. I feel she is being malipulative and using guilt to seek attention. She has always believed that her happiness is everyone else responsibility and has said so in the past. I worry terribly about my spouse, especially when he walks in his sleep as he has fallen more than once. I am a nurse and I know how geriatrics can progress which worries me even more. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.