My mother has had a fall and is needs 24/7 care. My sibling and I are unable to care for her because we live 3 hrs away and have full time jobs. We have set up caregivers for her. I am having guilt for not being there for her. I am leaving preplanned week vacation with my spouse's family this weekend and I feel terrible that I'm going on vacation and not caring for her. She also doesn't understand why I am not spending my PTO to care for her. Any suggestions on how to handle the guilt?
Good luck!
Several people on here have gotten the same threats and nothing ever comes of them. She wants you to drop everything and do it all for her 24/7, and that is selfish and unrealistic of her. Plus, you can’t help her when she refuses to accept the help she has.
She could live another 10, 20 years and she has to stop being so stubborn. She cannot call all the shots anymore if she is unable to care for herself anymore.
If she is so against assisted living, then she needs to start cooperating with her caregivers and do her part. It’s her choice.
Guilt is when you’ve done something wrong, and you’ve done nothing wrong.