My anxiety is building and I'm looking for guidance from the good people on this forum. My mom is 80 with early AD still living at home with my dad. She wants to do two things socially in the upcoming months. Bless her, she has always been social and lucky to have many friends, however I am worried for how my mom will be perceived or talked about as well as that I want to give her a stress free situation. The 2 events are very different. The first one is a memorial service for her best friend. I believe it will be well attended with people who haven't seen mom in while. Second is that she wants to have a luncheon at a restaurant for her own 80th birthday inviting 20 of her friends who still talk and visit her regularly. (Bless her. If she wants it, I'm going to do this for her. I'm planning to send invitations and do all the planning as well as help her that day with make up, etc.) Selfishly, I wish neither of these events was happening because my anxiety is through the roof. However, I am happy mom is still interested and I'm going to do what I can to give her a good day at each event. What is the best I can do to handle these situations - or, would you try to disengage from such events? Thanks for any replies.