Two other daughters live close and help out with evening bed time outside chores etc but are also verbally abused by this sibling.
Fear that older sibling is going to take all their hard earned money and end up having to sell their house to live due to her wasteful spending and/or embezzelment of their hard earned money. This sister feels entitled to what she is doing but it is so wrong. My parents worked hard all their lives and came from a very frugal generation. Very hard to sit back and watch this abuse. She is their POA and has also convinced my Mother to put her on as a joint account owner on their banking account.
My Mother just took out 36K to buy this sibling a new car. My Mother has told her to take money if she needs it. Apparently due to COVID running a house cost approx 8K a month! She is a master manipulator and a pathological liar. My younger sister and I have several emails and voice recordings of her abusive behaviour. Just not sure how to proceed with this without her turning our Mother against us. She knows that and uses it against us. This sibling is single has never married no family of her own. She is very self centred and mean to siblings and their spouses and children.
In the words of Morgan Freeman - at first you fight it, then you accept it, then you become institutionalized (Shawshank) I feel this is what is happening to my Mother.
I would never see this sibling again if she wasn't holding my parents captive. My Dad falls constantly and we are called to come get him off the floor before the PSW worker arrives or to help put him to bed every other night since there is no night help available. We are all prisoners of her. She has told my Mother that we only want to put our Dad in a long term home and we want all their money.
Covid is making it a tough decision regarding long term care.
She has been fired from most jobs - worked in HR
She is 61 yrs old my parents are 86 and 87.
Where to go from here??