I usually take my mother to Florida with me for the winter but did not this winter due to difficulty traveling with her alone. She still lives alone and my sister who lives five miles from her looked in on her and provided her main meal and took her to appointments. I am getting ready to go back to PA and will stay with mom about a month until my husband returns. I have been asking my mother to gather a few things together so I can take her to get her taxes done. She has no idea what she needs since I have gathered the info since her husband died. Yesterday I called her and told her one by one what she needed and stayed on the phone until she found the 5 documents, she found one because she had no idea what the rest were. I asked her to get the fan fold file folder, easy to carry in her walker, out and look for the other documents and I would call her back. When I called her back, she was in the living room trying to hold the folder on her lap, hold it open and trying to find the documents, complaining the folder wouldn't stay open. I said why didn't you put it on the kitchen table, it would be more stable and explained how to secure the lid. You would think I would have asked her to walk ten miles. She whined, she threw a fit because she had to walk six feet to the kitchen table. I said I suppose you're walking without your walker. She again whining said this folder won't fit in the walker. I know it would fit in the basket, I bought the folder. Where the folder is kept, she had to walk past the dining room table which is two feet from where the folder is kept, walk past the kitchen table also and then into the living room to her recliner. All she wants to do is sit in her recliner. If she is asked to do anything she whines like a child, pretends she is crying. I am already getting stressed about going to her house to stay. She is getting less safe everyday regarding living alone. My sister and I both thought we could manage her living between us but to be honest her behavior at times is so nerve wracking that we are rethinking it. We have four hours a week from the Area Agency on Aging, that is all she qualified for. Her money would only last about a year and half in Assisted Living and that's IF her home would sell which needs repairs and the closest Assisted Living Facilities are forty five minutes to an hour away from family and friends and she is not Skilled facility appropriate. We love her dearly but I never thought my mother would be like this.